Wednesday, April 29, 2020

Days of Our Quarantine (12/03/2020 - 30/04/2020)


Those mothers with newborn babies, babies, toddlers - put your hands up if you detects significant change between a normal day and a quarantine day. So we, mothers, can easily survive, easier than anyone else. Basically, the situation is almost the same, just we are more restricted, with no playgrounds, no shopping banded together and there are more tasks to cope with.  

During the first 3 weeks, everyone were at home. This fact made me busier than ever, only if we think about the dining and tidying part. (Even after a normal weekend it takes time to whip the house into shape, ha-ha.) So I quickly realized that a daily routine and some rules needed to introduce so that we do not slide apart. Furthermore, I compulsively insisted on one hand on the physical training and on the other hand on the tidiness everywhere in the house. 



 










 














There was no way to make a compromise in these two. I started with the pantry and fridge. It was essential to look through what we have at hand, because shopping became something that I wanted to do much less and more concentrated. Two weeks full of home-made dishes for four from breakfast till dinner. Oh my… really tiring… can be done in full time job. No problem at all, but the man’s daughter has children who require some care and the home assignments at the university were towered as well. So some food delivery service is inserted occasionally that is a great help on weekdays.


The quarantine made me to carry out that was only a plan till that time: planning the weekly menu in advance. I remember well the first shopping experience at the beginning of the epidemic. No part of my body wanted to go among human beings, but unfornately online shopping was also something that wasn’t prepared for the extended demand. So I chose an out-of-the-way supermarket but I did have a bad feeling. Tears gathered in my eyes seeing an old lady grabbing the shopping cart with her handkerchief. No gloves, no mask, naked. (All these were temporarily in short supply.) Was there really nobody to help her with the shopping? I hardly wanted to breathe inside the building. I was about to leave the place as soon as possible. After a months, a couple of things changed. Both inside of me and by the government. Eg. people above 65 years can enter the shops only between 9-12. In my opinion in total, most of the Hungarians are irresponsible and take the situation not seriously at all, even the elders. We also had the first (and hopefully the last) death near by us: one of an old bestfriend of Gabi’s father. Let’s take an example of Vietnam! No death in the country so far, and only 200 something infected people.


Many thanks to my husband, who had the idea of buying a huge trambuline right at the beginning of the quarantine. The best outdoor engagement so far, for not only the kids but also for me. We also hold tournaments on the backyard, running matches, namely, how long does it takes to run a round around the house, then how long does it takes to run 5 rounds around the house.




During this quarantine we had snow, we had sunshine, we had Nolen-day and Gabi's birthday, we had Easter and Mother’s Day on the first Sunday of May brought the easement. The seedlings were nicely growing, the fire was cracking more times under the kettle and the barbecue as well.



Everybody comply otherwise in the e-education. We make comparisons with Dominik unawares, between the teachers. He experiences e-learning and I experience e-learning, too. Although, we use different channels but we both found some features that make the teachers typical. Dominik tells that the position of the camera that makes the teacher individual. Each of them place it differently but always on the same way, always the same bodypart can be seen out of them. My finding at the uni is that the elder the teacher is, the more likely to ignore the written comments (some of the students have no microphone and write messages during the lecture instead of spoken word).



There is a big difference between my and my husband’s strategy regarding handling this situation. He speaks and read all day long about the epidemic, findings, measurements – he is completely impregnated by the happenings and his mind is always around the theme. As for me, firstly I tell him to ssshhhhh, do not speak about it anymore, at least you not. Secondly, I read the news max once a day. I just let it go hang. I noted, I’m precautious but do not overdo it and wait. Unnecessary to guess what is going to happen. Come hell or high water. There is also a bright side of this situation, just we have to find it.


What doesn’t really thrill me is the fact that this seems to be a returning epidemic. It is said that it stays with the humankind forever. The antiserum invented can be an easement later.

Friday, March 20, 2020

COVID-19


This is something that being all over the news for months.
An epidemic in the history, THE epidemic in our lives. Never experienced such things that are now happening with and around us. 

All started in the city of Wuhan, China around Christmas. We were updated about the number of infected people and deaths from January day by day, and kept an eye what's going on. But honestly, it was too far to worry about it seriously. Then the epidemic started to grow to considerable size and seemed not to stay within the Chinese borders and spread quickly in different countries. We all started to focus on it and to follow the happenings with more attention. And then, the course of events changed to Europe immediately. It raised its head in North Italy, a couple-of-hours-drive from us. We heard great loss of life. Numerous Italians fell prey to it unmercifully. Panic, emptied shops, quarantine, curfew. On the day of 20/MAR/2020, more Italians died (4032) due to the virus till now than Chinese (3248) altogether. The current news are about 270,325 infected people, 11,277 deaths, 90,603 recovered worldwide.

Hungary could drew a lesson from the Italian nightmare and the government tried/tries to react in time, so preventive actions were/are ordered one after another. At first, only the indoor places with more than 100 people were closed and outdoor events with more than 500 people were cancelled. Then slowly all other events were cancelled and each places where more people could stay at the same time were  closed. I bless my mind and the day, when I hurried into the library to get some books for preparing my homeworks because the following day the library was closed, too. And that was the day when Gabi called me on my way to the library and told that he needed to go into quarantine. He was at the building that was emptied just when he was there because of an infected employee who was just taken by the ambulance. Although, Gabi was outside the building and worked in gloves since the virus was in the country and kept the distance, the management decided to go home for 2 weeks. This automatically meant that Dominik, Nolen and also me needed to stay at home due to the latency. (As I approached the library on foot avoiding public transportation, I accidently run into one of my old bestfriend, Máriusz, known from the college. Then and there he told me that they expect their baby girl by August. What a turn in his life! A musician, a composer, a keyboarder, a master of the art of living who tried and experienced a lot on Earth. Can be an exemplar and highly appreciated by me. So, it was a nice chance meeting.)

Dominik could enjoy only one more day at home than his classmates because the following day the schools were ordered to close and remote digital education took effect. (At this period from the kid's lives: Nolen starts to speak longer words like "mákóbuba"= mákos guba= poppy seed dumps, "betokeve"= betonkeverő= cement mixer, "csodapo"= csodapók= wonder spider, "én vizem"= my water. As for Dominik, he is now learning how to make a pigtail from his own hair.) By now, we totally pupate ourselves into our home and thanks God (or rather my great DAD), I’m really really grateful that we live in a family house with a huge garden. Currently it’s warm outside, we have the daily routine more or less - it needs to be improved a little bit, we have a huge trambuline and actually have everything we need. Tremendous number of construction in our neighbourhood supplying the best theme that a little boy is interested in: endless number of tractors, bobcats, dumpers, road-rollers, etc...  Still no curfew but still too many people on the streets and what is much more annoying too many OLD people on the streets, in the supermarkets and everywhere. It seems the number of victims are not high enough to be afraid and modify the lifestyle (85 infected people, 4 deaths). But this might be changed critically in the next few days and weeks. Needless to say, the importance of door-to-door deliveries, the work of couriers, doctors and healthcare workers, shop assistants revaluated. They are those who perform superhuman achievement these days, risking their own health day by day. Respectable, honorable. Help, collaboration can be experienced everywhere (eg. „feed the healthcare workers” movement) but sad to say that a certain group of people exists that wants to take advantage of the situation and eg. applies unreal high prices of differents products or improve the situation by knocking on the doors of elderlies with the reason of disinfection but they are burglars in real, etc… And then there are tremendous number of memes spreading on Facebook in asssociation with COVID-19 to make possible crying laughing in this hard situation. One of my favuorite ones is "If schools are longer closed, parents invent the antiserum of the virus earlier than scientists."

On the other hand, the Earth is happy, a little bit. Factories suspended its activities, smokestacks and exhaust-pipes stopped to exhale the smokes and fumes, pollution was critically reduced. Due to the limitation of air transportation and home offices, certain emissions was also reduced. A number of positive effects of the happenings of the last months can be listed, one of my favourite ones: since the lockdown of Venice without the pollution of boats the water has been begun to clear up and is full of fish and dolphins has been spotted in the canal for the first time in nearly 60 years! Nature just hit the RESET button on us!


Tuesday, February 25, 2020

What if


What if you identify a personality disorder in your immediate environment? What if it is a kind that ruin your personality as well? What are you going to do? You might wanna make sure about it and you start searching on Internet. What if the more you read in the theme, the more confident you become. You can ask opinions of others. What if you know almost nobody being close to the touched person except the parents?
The most important thing is to recognize the situation. If you did, you deserve an applause. You made a diagnosis despite you are not a specialist. What if you skip this step? Otherwise you go crazy and start to blame yourself and search the mistakes inside. If you did (recognized and identified), you can act accordingly and you will understand a lot of things. You will also understand the person but will you be able to tolerate? If so, how long? Is there any chance for changing? What if the person in question does not approve your theory and says each of us has the same disorder?  What if the name of this personality disorder is narcissism?